As the Englishman and I plan our wedding, I wanted to share some of my favorite memories, advice, and ideas on wedding planning – I’ll be sharing those bits on Wedding Wednesday.
When my magical proposal happened, I asked a lot of questions (namely: “Are you freaking kidding me?”). “Does Pudding know?” I asked, wondering if she was in on the surprise. As it turns out, my dearest friend, Christina – sometimes called Pudding – very much did know. Brandon had called Christina to ask for her blessing before he popped the question – cue the awwwws. I was so surprised to hear that the Englishman had asked a whole lot of people for their blessing before he asked me to marry him!
Once we got home from England, I started pondering my wedding party. In complete honesty, I never enjoyed being a bridesmaid – it was all hype, only to be let down on the big day because you actually don’t feel very special. Initially, I thought I wouldn’t want any bridesmaids at all – but I knew I would want someone at my side to fluff my train before I went down the aisle.
The obvious answer was Pudding – I could completely trust her to help with my wedding vision, pick out her own bridesmaid dress (more on that in another Wedding Wednesday!), and generally be a blessing, not a burden. I mentioned my decision to a few people, and they all had the same answer: wait. Don’t ask her yet. A lot of them also had suggestions on more bridesmaids to add, because you don’t really want just one bridesmaid, do you? The truth was that yes – I only wanted the one. And no – I didn’t want to wait. This was my first experience in unwanted wedding advice, and I stuck with my gut.
I debated a lot of ways to tell her – a letter in the mail, or a personalized puzzle – but I wanted something that felt very “us” that she could keep forever. I found Holly Slay’s Etsy shop one very late night. Holly creates the most gorgeous hand painted teacups and saucers. I knew in an instant this was the best way to pop the question to Pudding!
Holly created a custom design for me – the plate said “Will you be my Maid of Honour?” and the teacup simply had “Christina” painted in sapphire blue. An unmarked, confusing box arrived at Pudding’s house, and I think her reaction says it all…