While researching last week’s book review of Lessons from Madame Chic by Jennifer L. Scott, I came across her video entitled “Vulgarity No More.” In the video, Jennifer discusses her distaste with reality television – especially the Real Housewives franchise. She discusses the negative impact of the show and how we can change the face of reality TV.
Jennifer’s video really got me thinking about television and what kind of television is really “refined.” We define refined, in regards to refined living, as “incorporating luxury in your everyday life that leaves you better about yourself – inside and out.” While there is some luxury in sitting on the couch with a glass of wine and seeing Brandi and Yolanda shop in Beverly Hills, it is disturbing to watch grown women fight, plot against each other, bully other women, and conduct themselves with vulgar behavior.
The Real Housewives of New Jersey
Watching the Real Housewives series never made me feel better about myself. I stopped watching long before the series developed into Atlanta or Miami and never looked back. There are so many other shows with the same theme in mind – lets take women, put them in unrealistic circumstances, and watch them fight each other. Lets watch them use foul language and embarrass themselves. Whether they are wealthy housewives or poor beauty pageant contestants, their shock value is the nucleus of the show.
The Real Housewives of Miami
This shock value is absolutely not refined and it is not necessary. There are reality shows (Jennifer mentioned Antiques Roadshow!) that don’t live to shock and awe, but rather uplift women and uphold good values. Some of my favorites were Pregnant in Heels, featuring Rosie Pope, and Tori and Dean, which was surprisingly wholesome and poignant. You’ll notice that those shows are no longer on the air. They lacked a vulgar shock value, despite the fact that they had so much to offer.
Some of the classiest women I know obsess over the Real Housewives franchise. I don’t know how they can support the women on that show who physically abuse and bully other women. I would never support a physical or verbal fight between two women, in my coffee shop or on my television. I am with Jennifer L. Scott – no more shocking reality television, no more shocking, vulgar behavior. Let’s be the change we wish to see in the world and stand for #VulgarityNoMore