The lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer will soon be upon us. Many of us are planning our summer shares in the Hamptons. Some of us are online shopping for new bikinis. And then there is the lucky few of us who are preparing to attend summer weddings.
Summer is the most popular time for weddings, with June as the Regina George of wedding months. Women envision a sunny, warm day, flowers in bloom, as she gracefully glides down the aisle. There is a picturesque image in our minds of the perfect June wedding.
Then, we arrive, and it is 95 degrees, the sun is blaring down on our shoulders, and the groomsman is looking a little to eagerly at our neckline. Oh, matrimony.
The biggest question for summer weddings is what to wear. Well, fear not! We have the perfect outfits for these events. First, there are some basic wedding attire tips to stick to:
- Dress for the ceremony, not the reception. You can always change for the reception if you really want to, but you really look like a slut wearing a cocktail dress in church.
- Dress for the grandmother, not the best man. You might be encountering the great uncle, the Governor, or the woman you want to work for. Dress like it.
- Dress for the bride, not for you. If the bride wouldn’t like it, don’t wear it. Don’t wear white. Don’t wear that dress she really wanted but couldn’t afford. Make her happy – its her day.
Now, your outfit will change depending on the event. here are some ideas:
The Formal Church Wedding
Churches are very conservative venues, and if the bride has selected a religious ceremony, she probably has strong religious beliefs. Choose a respectable dress with a longer hemline (not too far above the knee) and keep your shoulders covered. Accessorize with classic shoes and simple jewelry. Afterwards, switch to evening shoes and sparkly jewels for a more exciting reception look. A chignon would be appropriate for both ceremony and reception.
The Breezy Beach Ceremony
You want to be comfortable and yet still appropriate, despite your sandy surroundings. Beach ceremonies can be a beautiful event, but they can also be hard to dress for. Why not try a blue dress in a shift or fitted style (so it won’t create a Marilyn moment!) to fit with the ocean theme? Natural fabrics, like cotton or silk, will keep you warm. There’s something tacky about being barefoot at a wedding, so choose sturdy wedges for your shoes. Accessories with well-planned sunglasses and maybe even a hat. Don’t be afraid to change for the reception into more formal attire! To combat the wind, consider a chic braid for the ceremony and change to beachy waves for the reception.
The Casual Afternoon Affair
This is usually the hardest to dress for. Where is the line between casual and dressy? My secret formula is to pair a dress I wear with flats and shoes I wear with jeans. This usually gives me a balanced not-too-casual-just-dressy-enough ensemble. Stick to simple jewelry and a hat for a garden party. Keep your hair in a soft blowout, maybe with some natural waves.