I have to admit that I’m a fan of Tom Ford. As a clothing designer for men, his interpretation of male suits are enough to make any woman swoon. If you’ve not smelled his cologne samples, you are truly missing out on a sensory experience – they are super sexy. There’s a lot out there about the man, but it is undeniable that the man has style.
Why am I talking about Tom Ford on this, a woman’s blog? Because as refined women, we tend to have chosen as men one of two different creatures as mates:
- Type A: The “Are you sure he’s not gay?” Man: He wears fancy suits for fun and dons cashmere sweaters while having a male grooming routine that could rival (and likely beat) yours. Knows what a monk strap is and damn it, has nicer leather luggage than you.
- Type B: The “Ruggedly Manly” Man: Knows the way around a workshop and can literally fix anything you break. Loves sports and you often wonder if he’s color blind based on the outfits he puts together.
I happen to be married to the Type A variety. My husband has more clothes, shoes and bags than I do (seriously) and while he does fanatically love sports and can fix things, he’d be pretty pissed off if I gave him a hammer set for the holidays. I have a friend married to a Type B variety, and she’s looking to buy him nicer things for his wardrobe as he’ll happily go buy the hammer sets all by himself.
What I’m getting at is that as a man of the RefinedSide lady, he can probably stand for some fashionable holiday gifts. And after several years of buying gifts for Mr. Type A, I found myself seriously wondering what on earth I could buy that he didn’t already own (or, more specifically, wouldn’t dislike and never wear). This is where Mr. Ford comes in.
Browsing through our Pinterest boards the other day, I came across a pin I had pinned highlighting the essentials that every man should have. While not all things you can buy (trust me, I know lots of women who would buy their husbands some manners classes), the list does highlight some pretty great things that not every man would have that you can in turn use as gift ideas.
Mr. Ford lists his non-negotiables as:
- The perfect pair of dark denim jeans
- Sense of humour
- Daily read of an intelligent online newspaper
- Good manners
- Nail clippers
- Magnifying mirror
- Beautiful toothbrush
- Bottle of mouthwash
- Good cologne that becomes a signature
- Well-cut dark suit
- Classic black lace-up shoes
- Black loafers
- Lots of crisp white cotton shirts
- Always new socks and underwear
- Classic Tuxedo
- Beautiful day watch with a metal band
- Evening watch with a leather strap
- Perfect sunglasses
- A good bed, crisp sheets, down pillows and down duvet
- Perfect teeth
This list got me set on some great ideas for my Type A, and hopefully it will you as well. It’s actually even kind of perfect for every level of relationship you may be in, from high school sweethearts to met at a Halloween party last month.
- You can cover items #5, 6 and 7 with a good men’s grooming kit (like this Henckels kit or Royce Leather kit)
- #8 and 9 can be achieved -with caution if there is a halitosis issue- by purchasing a bottle of new designer mouthwash (like this one from Marvis) or fancy electric toothbrushes
- #16 is a tad boring, but you can spice it up with some new designer underwear or fancier styles of socks (I’m partial to Paul Smith socks, which are man-approved in my house)
- #18, 19 and 20 make great gifts that can be achieved at any price point (Turn to Mr. Ford himself for great sunglasses)
- #21 can be a delight for you too if your beau’s sheets are not up to snuff
- #1 can be a fun shopping experience where you act as personal shopper – or send him to one
- #13 can be pricy and difficult unless you know the shoe size, but a great classic to invest in. (Mr. Ford does do a genius version)
- #3 can be perfect for someone far away as you can sign up for a membership online for them
- #10 can be a great way to try something designer within a reasonable price range (Again, Tom Ford does a great cologne he can try – and lots of gift sets at Christmas!)
I know that these aren’t the quick hit kind of gifts that are packaged by the side of the till at the stores, but ladies, men are quickly evolving into much more fashion-aware creatures than ever before and this is just one way to making their holidays a little more refined.