A few weeks ago, I dipped a pedicured toe in the dating pool after a really, really, really long time avoiding it.
It was my first foray into “Adult Dating,” where your date isn’t a classmate, lab partner, or friend of a friend or a lab partner. Instead of a note sheepishly passed in math class (sigh, those were the days…) I was greeted with the awful reality of The Dating Game.
I was so deeply lost on the rules of this game. If it were up to me, I wouldn’t play the game. I hate games. But I was assured that this was how it had to be. You have to play. And I thought that was all well and good until I learned the rules.
THOU SHALT WAIT THREE, OR FIVE, MAYBE A WEEK FOR A PHONE CALL
THOU SHALT NOT BE AVAILABLE WHEN PHONE CALL COMES
THOU SHALT WAIT FIVE MINUTES BEFORE RESPONDING TO ANY TEXT MESSAGES
THOU SHALT BE ALOOF AND UNAVAILABLE AND WITTY AND CHARMING AND PERFECT
THOU SHALT CONSULT EVERY FRIEND ON EVERY DECISION EVER MADE DURING THE GAME
This advice, quite honestly, came from the dearest of friends with the kindest of intentions. But this game sucks. And I wasn’t going to play it. I really felt that I was worth more than that. I am not a pawn in a game, I am a woman who deserves to be wooed and flattered and laughed with and charmed. And he is not a pawn in a game; he deserves the real me, warts and all (just kidding, I have a cream for that).
So, I didn’t wait a week. I waited a day. I called him. And I didn’t mess around.
A few days later, one of my fellow Glosse Girls shared her similar experience and troubles and we spent some time chatting about it. I got on my soapbox, ranting about her beauty and intelligence being worth more than a cryptic phone call. I don’t believe in a three day rule, I believe I am so fantastic that any guy interested in me would be so excited that he would call me right away. I don’t believe in texting to get to know each other, I believe in a real conversation with a real person. I don’t like this game, and I refuse to play. My Refined Side tells me I am too good for this nonsense, and I really believe you are, too.