I remember after giving birth to my son being amazed at my stomach size. I walked into the hospital with a 9-month pregnant rock-hard watermelon gut* and walked out 24 hours later with a flabby, 3 month pregnant gut. I remember being so thrilled that it was tinier than it was 24 hours ago that I didn’t care much about anything else. I was going to try breast-feeding, damn it, and everyone knows the pounds fly off when you’re doing that. Stretch marks? They just fade away after a few months. Oh, and the flab? You should just do a couple of crunches in between the baby’s naps. It’s not hard.
These are the lies they tell you in order to continue the survival of our species.
When Duchess Catherine emerged from St. Mary’s hospital after the birth of Prince George looking as freaking perfect as ever, I found her choice of dress to be both intriguing (blue – did she have a pink one just in case?) and remarkable. She chose to not hide the fact that she had just had a baby – and her stomach was not back to the washboard abs of days gone by. The dress was a nod to the fact that it’s alright to not be back to your perfectly normal body immediately after having a baby. But seriously, ladies, this is the new standard. Get your hair blown out before leaving the hospital, OK? Hear that, ladies? The vast majority of women do not just magically shrink back to their normal size even 3 or 6 months post-partum. Sure, they will lose weight but they need to WORK to get it, and keep it, off. Or at least not eat handfuls of animal crackers and delicious delicious Goldfish crackers. But that could just be me. Add going back to work stress into the mix and you’ve got my situation: I am lazy and don’t want to exercise, I eat on the run or fast food quite often and I’ve got quite the Spanx collection. My little baby buddha belly is still, 16 months later, hanging around.
Now you might have seen my post about my own personal Happiness project and know that I’m finally ready to make the commitment – mentally and physically – to improving my happiness and focusing for now on better eating. Which should, in turn, hopefully finally banish me from the post-baby buddha belly once and for all. But the most important thing here is something that Kate did, probably inadvertedly, for the rest of us: it’s OK to not be entirely perfect on every single day. In fact, having a baby is a perfectly amazing reason to not have abs of steel. I’m coming to the realization that as long as you are healthy… And happy… You’re going to be just fine. And Kate’s normally perfect physique migth still be recovering, but she showcased that amazing head of hair and adorable sweet baby which made us pretty much forget about it.
*Total side note, but this is why I just don’t believe those “I Didn’t Know I was Pregnant” stories. Seriously, pregnant bellies are hard as rocks. There is no mistaking it for jiggly fat!