In today’s world, it isn’t enough to be beautiful and intelligent. We also have to be witty, charming and compassionate.
Gosh, life is tough.
I really work hard to be witty, charming and compassionate. Well, I was born witty. Right out of the womb I was making quips and quaint little jokes. But to be charming and compassionate, you need to make a good effort to sparkle every day.
The best place to do this is with your friends. Not only will your actions be contagious, but when your friend talks about you to her cute coworker (the one who works for DeBeers), you will be the most sparkly person ever.
One way I exercise my sparkliness is to share a little sparkle with my friends, whether they be close friends or regular acquaintances. When I say “share a little sparkle,” I don’t mean I wish them a happy birthday or remember their anniversary. No, “sharing a sparkle” is unexpected. It’s a little surprise gesture to say “I’m glad you’re my friend.” It also says “I’m a fantastic person who thought of you selflessly just because.”
Here are a few fabulous ways to share a little sparkle:
Send a Starbucks
Did you know that you can send a Starbucks e-gift from your phone? The Starbucks app lets you send your friends a gift card via e-mail, whenever, wherever. Send one to your friend, whether it’s $3.50 for a latte or $20 for a few lattes. Bonus points if you know what their favorite drink is! When Amanda went back to work after maternity leave, I sent her a Starbucks e-gift for her “non-fat, no water chai lattes and 6a.m. wake ups.”
Send a little note
You know all those little note cards you bought, but you never use them? Send one to a friend. Write something sweet, such as “Thinking of you and your wonderfulness!” It will absolutely brighten their entire week. If you’re feeling particularly frisky, add a little glitter to the envelope. This will either enchant them, or piss them off, both of which can be entertaining.
A small gift can send a big smile
Sending a friend a small gift, such as a book, an inexpensive necklace, or a new nail polish color can really send a sweet message. “Just Because” gifts are the best. Get yourself an Amazon Prime account, which gives you free 2-day shipping on about a zillion items. Add the latest Essie color to cart and add a note to the package that says “Thinking of you! Sending this just because you’re fabulous.” In 2 days, you will have made someone very happy!
Take them to the movies
Is your college roommate a huge Channing Tatum fan (um, who isn’t)? Or maybe a girlfriend is so excited to go see Monsters University. Fandango lets you buy gift cards and movie tickets as gifts. Inexpensive and easy, sending tickets so they can see the movies they’re dying to see is a great gesture. Make sure you add a note – “I know how excited you are to see this! Enjoy the movie!!” and don’t be surprised if they invite you (but don’t expect it! They are not at all obligated).
Go traditional – send flowers!
When was the last time someone sent you flowers? If you can’t remember, you need to get better friends – or forward them this article. I encourage you to send flowers, just because, to your friends, your mom, your cousin. Even better if it’s delivered in public! Flowers are nature’s gift to us and they always brighten the day. You can have a sweet arrangement sent for less than $30!
Do these ideas seem to “outgoing” for you? Good. Step outside your comfort zone. These ideas really make a difference in your relationships and in the way people perceive you. No one ever said “Wow, that quiet girl is so witty, charming, compassionate and sparkly.” But they probably said that about the friend who sent them a new book by their favorite author, just because. You can spend as little as $3 and share a little sparkle with someone. So I encourage you to go forth and sparkle!