There are a few moments in life that a girl is supposed to know, on the spot, when something is “right”: spouses, wedding dresses and falling in love with your newly born child. I felt that way during none of these moments in my life. I was friends with my husband before we became romantic and he had to talk me into dating, I tried on dozens of wedding dresses before finally deciding to be happy with one so I could stop searching and all I wanted to do after my son was born was have a shower. I’m definitely not the most emotionally driven person out there, so this isn’t surprising.
What was surprising was what I did find instantly “right”: My favorite perfume, now my signature scent.
Several years ago I found myself wandering around a boutique looking for a dress for the weekend and yet being drawn to the large collection of candles towards the back of the store. While the friend I was with tried on jeans, I smelled candle after candle of amazing smelling candle until I smelled the one. The one that stopped me in my proverbial tracks, the one that made all other candles I would ever smell from that point on inferior. This candle blew my mind – it smelled like sophistication, money, luxury, elegance and everything I loved in a small glass holder. It made me want to achieve better career success so I could keep buying it. It made me want to go on a diet to be more chic in the clothes I would wear when wearing the smell. It made me want to keep myself as well groomed as the woman who wore the scent and used this candle undoubtedly was. While I didn’t know it at the time, this was my first experience with my signature scent. I didn’t buy the candle or matching perfume that day (They were very expensive) but I sprayed the perfume onto a paper and carried it in my pocket. I took it out and smelled it about a dozen times throughout the day, each time being brought to the exact same sensory place as I had the very first time I smelled it. I was in love.
The candle was Diptyque’s Figuier, and my signature perfume is now the matching scent, Diptyque’s Philosykos. The smell, every day, brings out the exact same emotions as when I first smelled it. There are all kinds of things in the line as well (body creams, home fragrance) as you can see below.
Most people I tell about how much I love a smell think I have lost my mind. I’m very sure I have not lost my mind, but that I have just discovered something that they have yet to find. So today I’m going to share with you my tips on how to find, love, and treasure your very own signature scent.
The most important thing is that a signature scent should do two things: one, it should make you feel a certain way every time you spray it on or light it up in your house and two, it should be flattering and collaborative with your personality. If you don’t feel good about yourself or reminded of the person you are trying to become when you smell the smell, it’s not right for you.
So how do you find this miracle scent?
- Step outside your comfort zone: You should not stick with smelling the perfumes presented to you at the counters of department stores. While there are some great scents there for sure, most people I know who have signature scents are all devoted to niche brands which have unique scents that they have developed a very strong affinity for. That being said, many niche brands are starting to pop up more and more in larger, higher end department stores, so you might be able to use this to your advantage.
- Smell often, smell a lot: I found my signature scent because I was attracted to a wall of candles and I just started smelling them. Finding that the candle I loved happened to have a matching perfume was pure chance. If I hadn’t been inquisitive, I would have likely missed out on the perfume.
- It’s OK if it doesn’t sound good: The description for my scent is “The warmth of fig wood, the freshness of its leaves and the milky sap” That doesn’t sound like something someone who doesn’t enjoy outdoors would appreciate, but oh! How I do.
- Must be love: I have several perfumes that I enjoy or that I quite like the scent of, but none of them are comparable to “the one”. Don’t settle for something that smells great in the bottle but doesn’t work on your skin, a scent that’s just a little too much of this or that or a scent that is something you’re not. I could never pull of a bold, masculine scent because I’m bubbly and feminine.
- Become a connoisseur: Let’s say you’ve found your scent. Shout it from the rooftops and get to know what you can about it. I’ve visited Diptyque stores in Europe, North America and Asia. By shouting from the rooftops, my friends know that when they see a Diptyuque sale to pass it along to me. I also enjoy finding special editions and have discovered that there are other, complimentary scents in the Diptyque family that I enjoy.